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Looks like I haven’t posted anything in a… yyyyeeeaarrr… huh. How about that?

It seems only like last week that I gave that bear to Jill (‘Marcia’ has since given me permission to use her real name :P). What an interesting year it’s been since… You see,  about that time I had listen to Daft Punk’s The Prime Time of Your Life and really took the lyrics in. I started taking the song as a motivator, telling myself that “This is the prime time of your life. Now. Do it today.”

So I did it; a week later, I asked Jill out on a date. As per both of our recollections, we were at work and we were just about ready to close for the night. Back then I was the closing cashier and she was buying something (I think it was her turn to buy us Gatorade), and I was ringing her up. I figured now would have been the best time, if there were a such thing. So as I was finishing up the transaction, it all came out at once: “Wouldyouliketogooutsometime?” I don’t even think I understood what I had said at the time, and she didn’t catch what I said. I felt a bit deflated, but I tried to collect myself and I asked again, this time much more slowly: “Would you like to go out sometime?”

Her face lit up and she said, “Sure! Sounds like fun!” She spooled out some receipt paper, tore it out of the printer, grabbed a pen, and jotted down her phone number. My heart was probably still pumping from all of the excitement and adrenaline, but I knew what she was doing. She handed me the paper and said, “Let me know!”

I thought for sure I was going to ruin everything, and for a little bit, I thought I had. The first date I planned was just a round of minigolf so we can get to know each other better, but she ended up postponing the date. Why? One of her eyes swelled up and she said that her mom didn’t think she should go out in that condition. I didn’t mind; I saw that she indeed had a little bit of swelling the next day at work. She explained that she has a lot of different allergies, and probably the swelling was caused by a reaction to the new way she got her nails done. We made plans for probably a week later for a lunch date. She contacts me a few days before the date that she was having lunch with her grandparents and she had forgotten. This time I was a bit disappointed, but things happen, so I let it slide. The third attempt was planned for a day that we hadn’t counted on the weather turning into just a prolonged torrential downpour. I quickly suggested that we simply go see a movie or do something indoors, but her mom didn’t want her doing any unnecessary driving in the heavy rain. Completely understandable, but I think I had told her that the ball was now in her court to try to set up a date. I was probably getting a little frustrated, and she picked up on this. She caught up with me at work and apologized, saying that she really did want to hang out and didn’t want me to feel like she was ditching me. She pinky swore that the next time, we would definitely go out.

Oh, but then I remember how she set it up; she sent me a text message (at 4 AM!) asking if I was free the following Thursday. I said that I was, asking what she had in mind. She suggested going to the batting cages, and we went. The date ended out going great; we we able to keep the conversation flowing, and it wasn’t more awkward than first dates have to be. We agreed that we should go out again, and to make a long story short, we hit it off and we have been going steady since April 1st, 2010! (Yeah, yeah… April Fool’s Day… I didn’t realize that midnight passed when I asked, but it didn’t matter because I was serious. Oh well, anniversaries will be lots of fun. :P)

We are still dating today. We have so much in common; we just clicked right into place. We’ve shared so many experiences together, and now I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I can’t imagine my life without her how. So I’m trying to apply that saying in other aspects of my life now: “This is the prime time of your life. Now. Do it today.” It doesn’t matter what stage of life you’re in, because now will always be the prime time of your life. We’ll see where it gets me and indeed, where it gets us!